Attitude verses Personality
No this is not a self-help post
I can't name the number of times I've heard the age old slogan of "attitude is everything" but you know what it's not. That's not to say it isn't a huge part but it's not everything. You need balance between substance and attitude. You can be the most happy-go-lucky person in the world but if you have nothing to support it, no brains, no perseverance, no modicum of skill you're not going anywhere. Walk in and be all smiles and no computer savvy and I'll guarantee that you are not going to get that job at google. On the flip side if you are the smartest nuclear physicist in the world you are not going to be the next Tony Stark if you act like a jackhole. I know he comes across pretty awesome with the whole, "Screw the world" attitude but in all reality he is a fictional character. That being said even in fiction world the only people that can stand him enough to spend any amount of time with him are the people he is kind to at some point or Jarvis who as a robot and his built in AI cannot in fact run away.
Every single jerkoff that you know that you still like the reason that you like them is those moments when they act like a human being. So attitude is a big deal, but it's not the end all.
Your attitude is not your personality. Granted one effects the other but in the end your attitude is basically the side of yourself that you decide to show people. Every single attitude that you have is a part of your personality. It's part of who you are but how much you show it determines how big of a part it is. When you act like an arrogant son-of-a-motherless-pinata-maker 95% of the time it's because 95% of you is an arrogant SOAMPM that's just the way the candy falls. I'm not saying you can't change but your attitude is your choice ultimately. It's the side of your self that you decide to show when that stupid customer cusses you out and you stand there smiling and saying nothing, you're showing self-restraint. When you vent to your friends about that same annoying-beyond-all-reason customer you're showing annoyance, frustration, and that small inability to let go of wrongs done to you. All of those parts of you are always there, that's your personality.
Not to get all illustrative and artsy but everybody is like a multifaceted gem. There are so many sides to every personality. ] and that really doesn't reflect what you're made of all it reflects is how you're cut and fashioned. The more facets the brighter you shine, the more complex the more interesting. So if you only show one side of yourself to people they will think you're shallow and really really boring. Flip side realize that everyone you meet has more to them than what you see at face value.
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